Less than two years ago, I was blessed to become a mother. I wasn’t sure I’d ever be able to have children. Like many military women, I waited to try. When I became a helicopter pilot, I was usually the only woman in all-male units—and in that highly competitive world I didn’t want to take any time off. My goal was to get a battalion command, and that meant meeting a lot of career benchmarks. That took years. The entire time, I was competing against the others who wanted a battalion command too. They were all men who could have children without taking leave. As a female pilot, however, I...